Hey beautiful, before I get stuck in, I want to take a moment to let you know about the latest loveUNLEASHED offering…FEMPOWER!! Yes, exclamation points are required cos I am soooooo excited about this and the impact it is going to have on so many womens lives!
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Ok, let’s get stuck in…An AMAZING relationship begins with YOU!
I wish I had learned this sooner…how much easier my journey to finding love could have been. That being said, I wouldn’t be the person I am today had that been the case, so I’ll take what I was gifted with gratitude thank you.
How about you? How’s your level of “EFF, I wish I had known that sooner?” I feel as though it is a pretty standard human thing right. To have thought that line at least a million times throughout our lifetimes…haha ahhhh hindsight, it’s beautiful thing.
In all honesty though, I really do love my journey to finding soul connected love thus far. I say thus far as I am a believer that nothing is forever. We never know what is going to happen and things can change in the blink of an eye, so I try to remain slightly unattached.
Ha, who am I kidding, I’m mad about the boy, the MAN I get to call my KING.
Yes, that’s his nickname, you can even check my phone. Whenever he calls or texts, he pops up as MY KING with a heart shaped eyes emoji (that’s how Siri describes it) and I LOVE IT!
I love everything this amazing human being brings to my life.
The highs, the lows, the challenges, the love, the excitement, the fear, the connection, the intimacy, the family unit we have created with our 2 boys, the similarities, the differences, the perspective…all of it. Even the moments I want to scream at him and slap him upside the head…oh yea, they happen, not the actual slapping, but the desire to, it’s normal and totally OK!
We truly do have an amazing relationship though. One that continues to grow and expand in every moment. It’s such a beautiful journey to be on with someone, and I know without a doubt, that the reason I was able to attract in this kind of loving relationship into my life, was because of the relationship I created with myself BEFORE I met him.
The relationship with my ONE – ME – I am the ONE.
Sounds a bit corny right? Or maybe not, however it is my truth, and one that I share with my friends, family and clients regularly.
I share the importance of this relationship above all others, as this is the relationship you are guaranteed to be a part of for the entirety of your life.
THIS IS YOUR FOREVER LOVE STORY.
And the foundation from which all other love can grow and flourish, however sadly this is most often the relationship that is overlooked.
Without this foundation, we tend to seek validation and love outside of ourselves which leads to us never truly feeling fulfilled.
I don’t’ know about you, but I had it drummed into me from a very young age, that loving myself meant I was vain, egotistical, full of myself. That to love myself was selfish. Maybe you can relate?
I believe self-love has been greatly misunderstood.
To me, loving, myself means to be at peace with myself.
It means taking care of my whole being on all levels…mind, body and spirit.
To honour and value myself.
To nourish my body.
To speak kindly to myself.
To speak my truth, even when it’s the hardest thing to say.
It means taking time to just BE with ME.
To nurture the relationship, I have with myself.
It means putting myself and my needs above all else sometimes, even my kids and partner.
It means knowing myself in any given moment and being committed to working on my relationship with self, every day.
It means growing and expanding always…just like the breath.
I choose to treat myself the way I desire to be treated by others.
I hold myself sacred and have boundaries in place to protect and respect my values.
This is a MUST. For all of us.
To truly give and receive love from another, we must first deeply love ourselves.
We teach others how to treat us by how they see us treating ourselves. If we are out of alignment with ourselves, so too will be our relationships.
So divine woman, reading this post, be sure that the relationship you nurture most in this lifetime is the one you have with YOU, for when that is watered, fed and nurtured, you create the ideal growing conditions for a divinely aligned love with another.
I love You,
Nikii x
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